I stumbled upon F*ck Love by Tarryn Fisher when I was perusing one of the various social media websites to which I belong, and the title drew me in. How could a story about love and relationships have such a title? My intrigue was rewarded with a beautifully written story about love and how it affects humans in various manners.
The words of Tarryn Fisher emotionally affected me like very few authors are capable of doing. Her words resonated with me. Her ideas about life, relationships, growing up, knowing what you deserve all touched me as a reader. I can remember taking screenshots of these lines and texting my friend because I was so moved by her syntax and diction. Because her words are phenomenal, I couldn’t pick just one quote that was repeat worthy, and, to be honest, I had a difficult time picking two, but I did it.
“You shouldn’t have to convince anyone to choose you. There is no real choice in love.” This line really exhibits the conclusion Helena draws after her many interactions with Kit, the hero of the story and her best friend’s boyfriend. She spends the novel pining over him, and resisting her affection for him. Through the trials and tribulations of the novel and the near misses between Helena and Kit, the heroine of the story finally learns her worth. This idea that if you have to convince someone to be with you then you don’t need them at all is an idea that all people should learn. Real love means that a person accepts you for who you are and they love all the good and bad parts of you. You shouldn’t have to hide parts of yourself or change who you are to convince them to love you or be with you. I feel like every woman and little girl, really everyone, should have this quote ingrained in their brains from birth. If you understand real love and know your worth, then you will be much happier in life.
“It all hurts too much. Don’t make someone burn, and then try to douse the flames with the things you should have done. Those regrets are gasoline not water.” This line speaks to the regret Kit expresses for the choices he has made that have kept them apart, and, at this point in the book, the chances of them getting together look slim to none. Even though this line is said in a particular scene, the idea of regret is one everyone can understand and has experienced. What really moved me about this quote is how she uses metaphors to convey the damage done with the bad choices and the voiced regret. When nothing can be changed, regret just makes the wounds worse. Just as in the story, regret does nothing more the rub salt into wounds and should be left alone, as voicing your regrets doesn’t change the outcome of the decisions that have already been made.
F*ck Love is a beautiful story with emotionally charged ideas about love and life that is conveyed with alluring prose. I truly cannot accurately convey how wonderful this story is. If you haven’t experience the story of Kit and Helena, then you need to check it out!
Helena Conway has fallen in love.
But not unprovoked.
Kit Isley is everything she’s not—unstructured, untethered,
and not even a little bit careful.
It could all be so beautiful … if he wasn’t dating her best friend.
Helena must defy her heart, do the right thing, and think of others.
Until she doesn’t.